Creating an Inner Balance in Your Life
Winnipeg Parent, Fall 2007
"In the end what matters most is;
how well did you live,
how well did you love,
how well did you let go."
~ Author unknown
In today's world it is tempting and quite easy to get caught up in over programming and overextending ourselves. It's not that we start out planning to overdo, it just somehow all sneaks up on us. The truth is there is so much out there to see, do and experience between work life, family time, couple time, time for self that our attention usually tends to bounce around on what is needed in the moment. Creating an inner balance means living in the absence of that constant adrenaline serge, less rushing and doing and more enjoying and being. This is no easy task. It takes a conscious effort and focused time to stay mindful to all the essential ingredients that contribute to balance.
Try imagining a circle divided into four equal quadrants: mind, body, spiritual wellbeing, and time for creativity and play. Paying homage to all four areas is essential and necessary for filling up the tank within. Just like you can't take a long road trip without putting gas in your car along the way, nor can you keep life going without refueling. Each area has it's own unique purpose yet works together as a harmonized team. Your mind is essential in helping to figure out what is really important to you. Your body is your vehicle that tells you how much to push and when you have had enough. Your spirit helps you find meaning and purpose in your life. It connects you to others and with the divine. Creativity and play allow for enjoyment, re-energizing and making light of the more difficult challenges in your life that come along.
Creating inner balance requires a four step process. First you must know what is important to you. If I were to ask you to write down the 10 most important things in your life what would be on that paper? These are called your core priorities and highlight what you value most in your life. Knowing what is important is the first step in creating a life of balance. The next step is to begin reviewing your life on a daily, weekly and monthly basis to see if how you are spending your time reflects back the priorities you had written on your paper. The third step is all about decision. What areas are running smoothly? What areas need a total revamp? What areas are in need of a tweak? Once you have highlighted what to change try focusing on one area at a time. Putting a new plan into action can feel quite daunting. Breaking it down into small bite size pieces and being accountable to someone you trust helps to create a plan that can work.
Balancing life is about learning how to honour self care at all levels: physical, emotional, and spiritual. Learning the importance of filling back up so you are able to give back to those you love and care for without being depleted yourself in the process.